Leane As a mum, I’ve learned that there are certain things I’ve consciously chosen not to do when it comes to parenting Babybel. It’s all about creating a nurturing environment that prioritises her well-being, growth, and emotional development. Join me as I share my thoughts on some parenting practices that don’t align with my values and why I’ve chosen to take a different path.
1. Sleep Training: Prioritising Comfort and Connection
Sleep training methods like cry it out or controlled crying just don’t sit right with me. Babies cry to communicate, and their nighttime cries deserve the same attention as their daytime ones. I firmly believe that if we wouldn’t leave a crying baby during the day, we shouldn’t do it at night either. After all, empathy knows no time constraints. As Babybel’s cries echo in my ears like a siren, I’ve chosen to respond with comfort and care, ensuring she feels safe and loved even in the darkest hours. Recent studies have shown that sleep training doesn’t necessarily teach babies to sleep better – instead, it teaches them that their needs might not be met.
2. Time Outs: Embracing Understanding Over Isolation
The concept of timeouts often revolves around giving kids a moment to calm down and reflect. However, expecting young children to actually do this is quite unrealistic. Instead, I opt for understanding and communication, helping Babybel express her emotions in healthier ways.
3. Smacking: Nurturing Respectful Discipline
The idea of smacking a child is something I simply can’t fathom. It goes against my belief in respectful and non-violent discipline. How can we teach kindness and empathy by using aggression? I want Babybel to grow up knowing that her feelings and well-being matter, and that violence is never an acceptable response to frustration.
4. Forcing Affection: Respecting Personal Boundaries
Forced hugs or kisses to family members might seem harmless, but I want Babybel to learn that her body belongs to her. Just as I dislike anyone invading my personal space, I won’t make her feel obligated to show physical affection. It’s about setting the foundation for her to have agency over her body and boundaries.
5. Avoiding Fear for Fun: Fostering a Safe Environment
The recent trend of intentionally scaring kids for amusement doesn’t align with my parenting style. I want Babybel to feel safe and secure in her environment, knowing that her feelings are respected and her fears aren’t used against her.
6. Positive Body Image: Embracing Self-Confidence
Growing up, I faced criticism about my appearance, which had a lasting impact on my self-image. I want Babybel to know that she is beautiful just the way she is, free from judgment or criticism. It’s important to me that she grows up confident in her own skin.
7. Mealtime Battles: Fostering a Healthy Relationship with Food
I’ve chosen not to force Babybel to finish her meals. It’s not about letting her eat only chocolate and crisps, but rather respecting her appetite and preferences. I want her to have a healthy relationship with food, free from any negative associations or pressure to finish what’s on her plate.
8. Food as a Reward: Encouraging a Balanced Approach
My own relationship with food was affected by the concept of “good” and “bad” foods. To counter this, I’ve adopted a balanced approach to treats and meals. I want Babybel to understand that food is nourishment and enjoyment, not a reward or punishment.
9. Open Communication: Creating a Safe Space
I’m committed to keeping communication lines open with Babybel, even when it comes to taboo subjects. I believe that addressing challenging topics openly and honestly will help her feel comfortable discussing anything with me as she grows older.
10. Using Accurate Body Part Names: Promoting Safety and Understanding
Babybel knows the proper names for body parts. This is a conscious decision to ensure her safety and comfort, as accurate language helps her communicate clearly about her body. It’s about prioritizing open conversations over euphemisms.
Through these conscious choices, I’m dedicated to raising Babybel in an environment that values empathy, respect, and open communication. Each decision I make reflects my commitment to nurturing her growth and well-being in a way that aligns with my beliefs and values as a mum.
